Most Beautiful Plague
I dont get it. maybe i was born without the marriage gene or something..
more and more of my friends are getting married, knocked up, ect. I’ve never felt or understood the rush to do this. in fact ive never felt the urge to do this at all. pregnancy and pregnant woman gross me out. I don’t ever see my self planning a wedding or having kids. sure i may get married, but if that days comes, it will be on my terms. and as far as kids go, i have a dog. that is all the kid i will ever need or want. maybe one day i’ll even get a duck.
back to the topic. what is this rush to settle down? i cant imagine buying a house right now or feeling that tied down to any single place. sure, i love decatur and could stay here for a long time but i’m not ready or willing to put down any real roots.
maybe i don’t even understand the concept of marriage beyond getting a tax break. if youre with someone, youre with them. why do we need to legally bond ourselves together and create a paper trail mess? in some cases, yes, i can understand.. shes a gold digger/one person goes in with a ton of money, ect… other than that, what is the big deal besides protecting your own assets [ass] and “showcasing your [decorating skills, or lack thereof] true love” to 500 of your closest (facebook) friends.
i just dont get it.
i am not in possession of this person, nor are they in possession of me. this may be the person i choose to spend my life, my time, my thoughts with. its not about ownership or what one person is “owed”, it is about trust, love and sharing. if it becomes about anything other than that, it may be time to re-evaluate.
i guess i just find marriage to be a bullshit term and more importantly, ideal. as i see more and more people i know screaming out through their facebooks… “look how happy i am! im married! life is perfect! yayy,” i just want to remind them that life is so much more than planning your “perfect” day. you have just contractually bound yourself to a person. and while contracts can be cancelled, it is not a fun or easy process.
in the south there is just this huge pressure/expectation to go to college, meet your sig.other, get engaged, get married, pop out a kid and have this white picket fence life. and i for one, want this to change. yes, ive always felt/thought/been a little different than the crowd… but i don’t find this to be wrong.
i’m not against relationships. i have been in my current one for almost a year. i’m against stupidity and showboating. i’m against looking for this perfect ideal of a life, rushing into something stupid and then ending up 30+ and miserable. or even as a early 20’s divorcee as many of my friends are now becoming.
life is not perfect. there is not right, textbook answer. listen to anyone you can. pick up new things. find a passion, find your creativity and find your own way, not the way others think you should go.
do stupid things. do not do contractually binding stupid things.
